MY CRAZY WORLD: October 2016

Sunday, October 30, 2016

Nothing Is Simpler

The shine on her buckle took precedence in sun
Her shine, I should say, could take me anywhere
It feels right to be up this close in tight wind
It feels right to notice all the shiny things about you
About you there is nothing I wouldn’t want to know
With you nothing is simple yet nothing is simpler
About you many good things come into relation
I think of proofs and grammar, vowel sounds, like
A is for knee socks, B is for the beauty in your eyes
U is for hair clip, and Y your tight skirt
The music picks up again, I am the man I hope to be
The bright air hangs freely near your newly cut hair
It is so easy now to see gravity at work in your face
Easy to understand time, that dark process
To accept it as a beautiful process, your face

Saturday, October 29, 2016

.Have I Ever Told You?

You created some magic in my life
You filled my world with happiness
Your love is everything that I dreamt..
You are the one who filled
my life with love.
Have I ever told you that
You mean a world to me?
Just in case I haven’t
I want you to know that
you are the best thing
That’s ever happened to me!!!!
I Love You!

Friday, October 28, 2016

What I love about you

The sparkle in your eye,
The warmth of your skin.
Your breath on my neck,
That quivers within.
The touch of your hand,
The smell of your hair.
The kindness in your smile,
That strength in your stare.
Your kiss on my lips,
Your body near mine.
The stroke of your touch,
That feeling inside.
The sound of your voice,
Compassion in your embrace.
The serenity in your stride,
The power in your face.
The calming of your presence,
The beating of your heart.
The promise of tomorrow,
That we may never part.
The beauty of your kiss,
and that magic in your touch.
It is for all these reasons and more,
Why I love you so much.

Why We Cling to People Who Don’t Love Us

Why did I cling to a chic who didn’t love me for long?
I’ve been asking myself that question a lot lately, as I see friends of mine trapped in similarly hopeless situations. Situations that I can see so clearly as someone who has been there and is now standing on the outside, looking in. They can’t see or think clearly because they’re in the thick of it. Too close to it. I guess you have to be really ready to see someone for who they really are. Until that moment, until the veil finally lifts, you find yourself making excuse after excuse after excuse for them. Is that you, right now? Is that where you’re at? Let me tell you about some of the thoughts that went through my mind during my waiting on Mrs. E to love me.
She doesn’t know how to handle her feelings. They’re too intense. She runs whenever she has serious feelings for someone. She’s emotionally immature. She’s scared of commitment. She loves me SO much, she doesn’t know how to express it. She’s so different from other chics. I can’t apply hard and fast “She’s Just Not That Into You” rules to Mrs. E, because she’s a one of a kind. When God made her, she broke the mold. If I just wait a little longer, she’ll wake up and realize how she feels about me and we’ll live happily ever after. She moved across country/disappeared/stopped calling me because we started to get too close. Anytime we get too close, she runs. Her feelings for me are overwhelming, so that’s why she vanishes. I know she’s the one for me. I know I just have to be patient…just give her a little more time. She moves slowly when she’s really serious about someone. She’s only committed to crazy guyz in the past because she knew it wouldn’t last. Yes, that’s why she committed to them and not me…because she knows I’m keeper and once she commits to me, it’s forever. That has to be it. I’m the one for him and she knows it and we have such an intense connection, it’s scary to her. She runs because she’s scared. She doesn’t commit to me because she’s scared. She drifts in and out of my life because she’s scared.
Of course, reading that now, today…it’s easy for me to see the sheer insanity of my thought process. But this is what we do. We can’t admit the truth to ourselves because it’s too painful…so instead we write the story for the other person. We fill in the gaps with soft, shiny protective denial because the sharp edges of the truth hurt too much. We look for deeper, hidden, more noble meanings to their every word because we can’t face up to the truth that their actions are showing us exactly how they feel. We let them off the hook time and time and time again for letting us down and breaking our hearts because we just know that underneath it all, underneath the pretense and over the giant wall they’ve erected all around them, beats the heart of a person deeply in love with us. We don’t take their actions at face value because the face looking back at us is too cold and distant and removed for us to recognize…and the person we’ve invested so much time and emotion and energy into would NEVER be cold and distant and removed. Would they?
The truth is, my friends, there’s no such thing as loving someone too much to be with them. As being so overwhelmed by your feelings for someone that you run from them. As being too scared to commit to someone. These are the stories that the books and movies want us to believe because they’re fraught with drama and romanticism and tortured passion…but the truth is far, far simpler.
When someone shows you how they feel…or don’t feel about you…believe them.
If they love you, they’ll act like it. If they’re not acting like it…they don’t love you.
If they want to be with you…they’ll be with you. They won’t just SAY they want to be with you, or tell their friends they want to be with you…they’ll SHOW you. And if their words say one thing and their actions say another…believe their actions. Every time.
The truth, even when it comes to love, is far simpler than we dare imagine or even wish. If you are left with feelings of confusion and anguish and uncertainty and rejection and unease…that isn’t love. Love isn’t perfect, no…but it’s also not torturous. It’s not painful. It’s not a constant gray area. Love is certain. Love looks like love. Love doesn’t hide or dodge or run. Love shows up. Love makes itself known, and it makes itself clear.
It took me almost eight years to understand that anyone you have to wait around on to love you, is someone that will never love you. There isn’t going to come this magical day when they suddenly wake up and realize they love you. There isn’t going to be this grand gesture where they chase you to the airport or the train station to confess their true feelings for you. You can literally waste years of your life waiting on the grand gesture. And if they have the desire to run when you come around, it isn’t because their feelings for you are so intense, they don’t know how to handle them. It’s because they don’t know how to handle telling you that their feelings aren’t all that intense.
This post will probably make some people uncomfortable. It will make some people mad. Others will read it, dismiss it and stay with feet and heart firmly planted in that endless purgatory of waiting on someone to love them.
But maybe, just maybe…it will also wake a few people up. Maybe it will empower one or two people to slam a door shut once and for all and not look back. Maybe it will save someone from wasting eight years of their life on the wrong person, like I did.
I’m not sure why I waited so long on someone to love me back that was never capable of it. Maybe because I didn’t love myself enough to see that I deserved so much more. Maybe because I didn’t want to admit to myself that someone I cared about so deeply didn’t share my feelings. Maybe it was because I already had my life’s plan written out for myself and didn’t want to admit that I got it wrong. Maybe I was simply scared to let her go because I was afraid of what that feeling of holding onto nothing felt like. (Even though I was already essentially holding onto nothing, I just didn’t realize it for a really long time.)
…Or maybe it was because I was always meant to write this blog and it was always meant to change your life.

The Most Beautiful Women from Every Corner of the World

52 women, different nationalities and cultures, but one thing in common… They are all beautiful. No matter what race, religion or background… beauty has no boundaries. It’s spread all over the world, throughout the continents, across the borders, from north to south, from east to west. Everyone will have its favorite, but we’ll all have a different one.